Are you ready to propose to the love of your life? It’s such a momentous occasion and a big decision, not to mention a lifetime commitment. You need to be certain that you are ready to start this next chapter of your lives as a couple. As well, there are also certain details you need to set in place before you actually pop the question.
We have asked the experts for some marriage proposal advice to help ease your tension. The most important thing is to keep your wits about you and remember that this is your moment!
- Make Sure She’s “The One”
Don’t even think about proposing unless you are certain that this is the woman that you want to grow old with. Don’t rush into something that you aren’t ready for. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and you need to be absolutely sure that she is the one. As well, you need to ascertain that she is on the same page before you ask her to marry you. Of course, if she has been dropping hints for months, it’ll be a piece of cake. But if you’re not sure she’s ready for marriage, find out before asking her to spend the rest of her life with you.
- Ask Her Parents Permission
Yes, this might seem old-fashioned, but if her parents are still in the picture, and a big part of her life, it is customary to do obtain their permission before asking for her hand in marriage. If nothing else, it will let them know that you are thinking of them and they might be able to give you some insights into her ring preferences and so forth.
- Find Out Her Ring Size And Style
Before you even think about shopping for an engagement ring, you need to find out her ring size as well as what kind of ring she would prefer. Does she prefer gold or platinum? Is she a modern girl or does she prefer vintage? Ask her parents and her close friends for some insight as to her ring style, as well as her correct ring size.
- Shop For The Ring
Now that you have any ideas what to look for, you can start shopping. Set a budget and stick to it. Don’t be afraid to ask for advice. You can even have a friend or family member help you out. Don’t forget to make sure that the ring is certified. Also, have it appraised and insured before you give it to her. Also, inquire about the return policy.
Don’t rule out family heirloom rings or second hand rings. You never know you may find!
- Come Up With A Proposal Plan (Who, What, When & Where)
Now that you have the ring, you need to come up with your proposal plan.
First of all who do you want to be there? Just you and your soon-to-be-fiance? Do you want to make it a public proposal? Involve her friends and family.
Next you actually have to come up with the plan itself? Do you want to put the ring in a special ring holder such as message in a bottle, holiday ornament or fortune cookie? Do you need to make any reservations or buy anything special?
Next is the when and where? You can choose a date that is meaningful for the two of you such as the anniversary of your first date or first kiss. Or you can just plan it on a “random” day when she definitely won’t suspect a thing. You also have to decide on where? You can pick a location that holds special meaning, such as re-creating your first date or her favorite nature spot. Are you planning on whisking her away on a romantic vacation? Have these details in mind when you are planning your proposal.
- Make Any Necessary Arrangements
Once you have ironed out all the details and have a set plan in mind, you need to start to make the arrangements. Make any reservations or purchases that you need beforehand. Make sure every last detail is set in place.
- Practice What You Are Going To Say
Even if you have a way with words, it can’t hurt to practice what you are going to say before. Understandably, you are going to be a bundle of nerves so you might forget what you were going to say. Write it down and practice it in front of a mirror or with a trusted friend.
- Have A Camera Handy
You will want to capture the moment so be sure to have a camera with you. Or at least make sure your phone is charged so you can use your camera phone if need be. You can also hire a professional photographer or ask a friend to take pictures if you don’t mind having a third party lurking in the wings to capture the moment for prosperity. Of course, if it’s a public proposal, it’ll be much easier to have someone one hand to take pics!
- Dress Your Best
Dress for the occasion. We’re not saying to rent a tux if you are going to propose while scuba diving. But dress nice for whatever the occasion. Have your hair trimmed, make sure your fingernails are clean and that your breath is minty fresh!
- Take A Deep Breath, Relax And Go For It!
You are bound to be nervous on the big day, but try to relax. Do some yoga beforehand if you can or mediate. Take several deep breaths and member that this is the love of your life! Just do it!
Remember to take these steps before you propose and all will go well! We wish you the best of luck and a lifetime of love and laughter!
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